Long distance relationships are not easy. I don’t think too many people get into a relationship with the intention of being apart more often than they are together, but sometimes that is exactly what happens. Although being apart makes things more difficult, it is possible to have a successful long-distance relationship. On this page we are going to go over some tips and strategies to give you some ways of making long distance relationships work.
Define Your Relationship
Before you and your significant other end up living in separate towns, it’s very important that both of you are on the same page regarding your relationship. You need to have a serious discussion about the way you feel about each other and how you would like to continue the relationship. Obviously, it can be very bad if one person wants to remain in a committed, monogamous relationship, while the other person feels like they are on a break and therefore free to do whatever they want and see other people.
It may seem obvious to some of the people reading this, but it’s important to sit down and have a serious discussion. Put all of your cards on the table and discuss your expectations about the relationship before it becomes a “long-distance relationship”.
Use Technology to Your Advantage
Modern technology makes it a lot easier to stay close, even when you’re far apart. You should try to stay in contact with your partner as often as possible. Daily phone calls are a must, but these days we also have options like e-mail, text messaging, and even online video chat.
One way to use technology to your advantage is to send photos or videos as a way to stay in touch. If you see something that you know your partner would like, or that reminds you of them, take a photo and send it to them. If you are out doing something fun, shoot a short video message and send it to them, telling them that you wish they could be with you.
You can also use services like Skype or other online video conferencing services to go on virtual dates. The two of you could rent the same movie and watch it together via video chat. You could sit down to a meal together and pretend like you’re sitting across the table from each other. Of course video chat is not as good as being there in person, but it is a way to see each other and spend some time together even when you are many miles apart.
Sending a gift every once in a while is a great way to keep the romance alive even when you can’t be together. You could send something like flowers, candy, or just a nice card, but you could send something more fun, special, or creative as well. A woman might want to mail her man tickets to his favorite sporting event. A man might want to mail his woman gift certificates for a spot treatment. Get creative and think of a gift that your partner would appreciate. It’s always fun to open a package and when you get a thoughtful gift from a person you care about, it really means a lot.
Discuss Your Future Together
If the two of you are making an effort to make a long distance relationship work, it’s probably because the two of you really care about each other and see a future together. You should talk about your future together. Discuss your plans for the future whether that includes moving in together, getting married etc. Discussing your future together and knowing that you will not be in a long-distance relationship forever, makes it easier to get through the difficult times when you can’t be together.
Visit Each Other As Often As Possible
It’s important to make an effort to see each other in person as often as possible. Of course that is easier said than done and the further apart you are, the more expensive it is to travel to see each other, but it is important to see each other in person. One thing you can do is take the money you might normally spend going out on dates and set it aside to pay for travel expenses. The two of you can take turns visiting your respective cities, or you can even plan a trip where you meet somewhere in the middle.
Hopefully the tips on this page have given you some ideas about ways to make long distance relationships work. It’s not always easy but it can be done. It’s important to remember that you will not be separated for ever and at some point you will be together again. In the meantime, I hope that the tips above give you some ideas that will help you keep the spark alive.