Maybe you have gone out on a few dates with a man and then suddenly he stopped returning your calls. Perhaps you have been dating a man for a few months and things seemed to be going well and then he begins to seem more distant. When a man begins to pull away from a relationship it can be confusing and frustrating for a woman. It can often leave the woman wondering what is wrong with her or what she did to drive him away.
There are times when something you did or did not do may have hurt the relationship but there are also plenty of times when a man pulls away due to his own insecurities and feelings of inadequacy. To help shed some light on the subject of why men do the things they do, we put together a list of the top 5 reasons why men pull away.
1. All He Wanted Was Sex
This is a reason why men pull away that happens early in a relationship. Some men are not interested in pursuing a serious relationship and all they want to do is have sex with an attractive woman. A lot of guys are interested in the thrill of the hunt rather than the happiness of a fulfilling and committed relationship.
There are two possible scenarios here. One is that he was only interested in sex and you had sex with him very early in the relationship. He got what he wanted and moved on. The other possibility is that you would not have sex with him and when he finally realized it wasn’t going to happen, he moved on.
The solution to this problem is to not have sex with a man too early in the relationship. If all he is interested in is having sex and you don’t give it to him, he will move on but this is not the type of man you want to be with anyway.
2. He Is Not Ready for a Serious Relationship
Not all men are predators that are on the prowl for a sexual conquest. There are plenty of men that are looking for a woman to settle down with and start a family. There are also a number of men who are interested in dating and spending time with multiple women but they are not ready to settle into a serious relationship just yet.
If you are dating a man who is not ready for a serious relationship, but he starts getting signals that you want to take the relationship to the next level, this could be something that would cause him to pull away.
3. Fear – Fear of Commitment and Fear of Failure
Some men may think they are interested in pursuing a serious relationship but when things do start to get serious they get very anxious and may begin to pull away. One reason for this is because although a lot of men want to be in a relationship with a woman, most men don’t want to feel like they are losing their freedom or losing their sense of self.
When a relationship starts to get serious a lot of men think that they may not be able to spend time with their friends or continue doing the things they used to enjoy doing before they were in a relationship. They may also be worried that their identity is disappearing and being replaced with a new identity of being a couple.
Some men are also afraid of a relationship failing. It may not make much sense but if a man has been hurt before in the past, he may actually sabotage a relationship so that he can end it on his terms rather than suffering the pain of falling in love and being dumped again.
4. Something Has Changed in the Relationship
A man may begin to pull away if something in the relationship has changed. If things between the two of you are not the same as they were in the beginning, he will lose interest. This sometimes happens when a woman acted a certain way in the beginning of the relationship when she was trying to attract a man but then her true personality comes out later. If he feels like he doesn’t recognize the woman he is with, he will lose interest. Of course, the blame is not always on the woman. Sometimes people just grow apart for whatever reason but when things change some men will feel like it’s time to move on.
5. He Needs Time to Figure Things out
Many times when a man is falling in love and developing serious feelings for the woman he is with he has a difficult time understanding and dealing with his own feelings. Sometimes a man will begin to pull away because he needs a little time and space to figure things out. If you give him the space he needs, it won’t be long before he is chasing after you once again.