What Can I Do To Get My Man To Want To Marry Me?
Throughout history, from the age of six or seven years old, every girl begins to fantasize about her wedding, her beautiful, long and white dress, and, of course, about the man of her dreams; he must look like Prince Charming, he must be dashing and loving and be somebody with whom she can live happily ever after.
This is the fairy tale version, of course, but in many of these cases, the girl manages to encounter the man of her dreams in real life as well. He is handsome, loving, protecting. Perhaps he has a good job and a nice apartment, to add some earthly aspects to our story.
And yet, something is often missing from this storybook scenario – the ring on her finger. The proposal. The actual wedding day. The marriage. Does this story seem familiar? Does your boyfriend fit the pattern? Don’t worry, he is just a part of the 99% of men who are afraid of commitments and find the “m” word hard to spell, difficult to hear and impossible to consider.
Pressuring him won’t do any good either because, no matter how much in love with you he is, the imagined chains and being under-the-thumb will always be there in the back of his mind. Some men are like this naturally. It’s not something you’re doing wrong and you’re not alone with this problem. So how to fix it?
You know how dog trainers teach puppies to stay in their crate by filling it with treats and toys and leaving the doors open so that the puppies feel that they are free to come in and out anytime they wish? This is exactly what you should do. Give him a taste of what being married to you might feel like, but don’t ask for the ring. Let him see what he could enjoy every evening and then go home.
Give him freedom, but ensure that when he feels that it’s time to give away a portion of that freedom that he will give it up by his own command. If he does not feel pressured, if he feels that you treasure your own freedom and you are not so ready to commit yourself, he might feel more inclined to take hold of the situation himself – in a way, you can subtly lead him to wanting to propose because he’ll want more of you than you are giving him. This is not blackmail, it’s simply showing him what he might miss if he doesn’t take the opportunity sooner.
Much of this is about how well you know him; in your ability to read his mind, to anticipate his moves and to satisfy his needs without letting him get used to it and taking it for granted. And don’t worry if you are at a loss for ideas, we all find ourselves in this situation sooner or later. Check out some of the other blog posts that are about keeping your man – and keeping him happy (over to the right). Maybe you simply don’t have the right man yet? You’ll also find tips on attracting men and, more importantly – attracting the right kind of men that are not going to procrastinate forever. The kind of man that will want to marry me is not gonna come around very often.
The Internet abounds in relationship guides and blogs which are stuffed with marriage and relationship advice you can use. If choosing seems difficult, here is a tip: check out guides or pieces of advice written by men, simply because there is a huge difference between what men think and what women believe they think – you’ll find many article pieces in the blog here that give the lowdown on a man’s perspective on marriage. This makes crucial reading for the woman that either needs to understand her current guy’s ways of thinking or for those that are looking to attract the right kind of partner from the get-go.
It is better to learn from someone who has actually been in your loved one’s shoes than to listen to the supposition of some woman who was just lucky enough to be proposed to by her man.
Attracting The Right Man – How Do I Do It?
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Check out my review of this ground-breaking system when you get a chance. You might be shocked by what you discover about the man in your life and the way he’s thinking.