It’s a very common occurrence; a man and a woman are dating for a while and things seem to be going great, then he suddenly seems distant. He doesn’t call or text as often as he used to and it almost seems like he is avoiding her. It is frustrating and confusing for women when this happens so to shed some light on the subject, we are going to cover some of the more common reasons why men pull away in relationships.
Have I Changed?
Sometimes men will pull away from a relationship because the woman they are with has changed. It’s almost as if she isn’t the same person she was when they first met. Some women will actually pretend to be someone they are not in order to impress a man. Some women will put on an act, trying to be the woman they think men will be attracted to. The problem is that no one can pretend to be someone else forever, eventually the truth will come out. If a man falls for a persona, he will definitely pull away from the relationship if the woman’s true identity is nothing like the persona she was portraying in the beginning.
Am I Too Needy?
A lot of men are attracted to a strong, independent woman. If a woman is too needy, it can be a big turnoff. Sometimes a needy woman is also a jealous woman which can also be a major turnoff for a lot of men. A jealous woman never wants to let her man out of her sight and doesn’t trust him. A lack of trust is a great way to kill a relationship.
He Has Personal Issues
When a man pulls away from a relationship, it’s not always the woman’s fault. Sometimes a man has issues that he is dealing with in his life and he needs to handle those issues without the added stress of being in a serious relationship. If a man is having problems with his family, trouble at work, or some other serious issue, he may pull away from a relationship until he can take care of whatever issues he is currently dealing with.
Things Are Moving a Little Too Fast
Sometimes things are going great, and a man and woman who are dating like each other very much and have a wonderful time together. For some men however, a fear of commitment makes them want to slow things down, so things don’t get too serious, too quickly.
This can be very confusing for a lot of women. If things are going so great, why would he not want to continue in the relationship? If a man has commitment issues, he is going to have to figure out how to deal with those issues before he can commit to a serious relationship.
What Can You Do When Your Man Pulls Away from a Relationship?
If your man pulls away from your relationship, the way you deal with it really depends on what his reason is for pulling away. If he is pulling away because you are too needy, too jealous, you don’t trust him etc., then you need to change what you are doing that might be pushing him away.
If he is pulling away from the relationship because he is dealing with personal issues in his life, let him know that you will be there for him if he needs you, but don’t be too pushy or aggressive. Give him the time and space he needs to take care of his issues, but let him know that you are there if he needs someone to talk to.
The same advice can be applied if a man pulls away from a relationship because of a fear of commitment. If a man has a fear of commitment and pulls away, rather than coming on stronger and trying harder to make things work, give him the space he needs. Sometimes men just need a little bit of time to get used to the idea of being involved in a serious, committed relationship.