I’m always getting this question from ladies desperate to get that ring on their finger. How do I get my boyfriend to propose to me?
How To Get My Boyfriend To Propose To Me In Three Easy Steps
The first thing that I usually tell them is that they are probably trying too hard. Guys can be gently nudged and cajoled but they cannot be forced into a marriage if they’re simply not ready for it. Indeed, if you approach things the wrong way and get over pushy – he’s likely to disappear for good!
One of the first things that you need to do is stop the incessant talk about engagement and how so and so is so happy now that she’s got engaged. He doesn’t really want to hear it and drumming it into him day after day will wear him down to the point of snappiness.
Getting married is the easy part – but getting him to propose marriage in the first place is tricky. There are a multitude of reasons why he might not want to get married right now, including the obvious ones. He doesn’t want to lose his freedom. He can’t afford it. Or there’s the career driven guy who wants to concentrate on that first before he settles down and has kids.
Don’t panic. It’s most often not that he doesn’t want to marry you. It’s just that he doesn’t want to marry you right now. So what can you do to speed up his internal marriage clock and get him to pop the question that bit quicker? Like I mentioned before, you need to employ subtle psychological tactics and actually let him feel that you’ve dropped the subject. Make damned sure that your friends, your mother and father and other members of your family are likewise not pressurizing him on the subject. Indeed, if this ever happens publicly ask them to lay off. If he feels like you’re on his side in this matter then he’s going to be much more likely to consider the question on its own merits than if you’re all ganging up on him.
If he’s worried about money – then you need to assure him that you’re not going to be constantly burning his wallet. Don’t keep insisting on how you want the perfect white wedding with the fancy car, the most expensive wedding dress at the swankiest place in town. Not only for wedding talk but for all aspects of your life you need to show him that you can get by without him spending money on you all the time.
What about that other scenario where, wait for it…he secretly feels that he needs to hang around for longer because he’s not sure that you are definitely the one for him? If you’re not treating him right and showing him that you are the catch of the century, he’ll definitely have this on the back of his mind. Yes, it’s true. Deal with it. It doesn’t matter how much he seems to be in love with you, men have something built into their DNA that predetermines them to always be on the lookout for something better.
Now, again, I don’t want you to panic. This is all hypothetical, right? Well you can’t assume that he dedicates his devotion to you 100% all the time. You need to always strive to be attractive to him and subtly make him realize that there’s nobody better for him out there.
He will have fears about marriage and that may be why you are now asking the question about how to get your boyfriend to propose to you. You need to find a way of allaying those fears without it seeming too obvious which direction you are leading him in.