Some Advice for Getting Your Relationship to the Next Level
Men with commitment issues are so common that it has almost become a cliché. Not all men have a fear of commitment but if you are wondering how to get him to settle down, your man probably has an issue with the “C” word. If you are in a relationship with a man that doesn’t seem to want the relationship to progress any further and is happy to maintain the status quo, you will find some tips on this page that may help him change his mind.
Accept Your Differences
It’s wonderful when a couple wants to do everything together but people are individuals and individuals have their own interests, hobbies, and desires. Accept your differences and let your man pursue his other interests. It’s okay to spend a little time apart now and then because it will give each of you the time to pursue your own interests and each of you will be happier.
If he doesn’t like to go shopping, don’t force him to spend the entire day at the mall with you. If you don’t like to watch football, he probably won’t be upset if you let him watch the game with his friends while you do something you would like to do. Accept your differences and both of you will be happier. If he is happier in the relationship, there is a good chance that he will be ready to settle down sooner rather than later.
Spend a Little Time Apart Once in a While
The previous tip was about allowing your man to pursue his interests while giving yourself permission to pursue your own. One of the benefits of this is that spending a little time apart will actually make him want to be with you more. If the two of you spend every moment together, there is a chance that he may be taking you for granted. Spend a little time apart, and the time you do spend together will be even better.
Trust Him and Respect His Privacy
Some women get very jealous of their men and they become almost like a private eye. They sneak around, checking his e-mails, going through his phone to look at old text messages or see who’s in his contacts list. If you have a legitimate reason to suspect your man of cheating then you should try to find out the truth. However, if he has done nothing to raise your suspicions and you are still investigating him, it could be very damaging to the relationship if he finds out. Once he realizes that you are spying on him he will also realize that you do not trust him and that could certainly push him away and make him have second thoughts about taking your relationship to the next phase.
Communication Is Key
If you want to get your man to settle down and possibly even propose to you, you need to be able to communicate with him. If you have been dating for a few years and you are waiting for him to ask you to marry him, you could try to implement all of the tips above but at some point you may have to take a more direct approach.
If you decide to talk to him about your future together, do so in a nonthreatening, non-judgmental way. You don’t want to be confrontational and you don’t want to sound like you are nagging him. You could make very subtle comments and suggestions about the two of you having a future together and see how he reacts. You may also decide to come right out and tell him that you would like to see your relationship progress to the next level.
If you start talking about the future with a man that has a fear of commitment, he may begin to pull away a little bit. Don’t be alarmed if this happens, simply give him the space he needs to figure things out. If he is in love with you, once he has had time to assess his feelings he will be back in your arms and ready to settle down.