For sure, my oldest daughter text messaging, posts, and video talks. Yes, she is acutely cognizant of when it is “time” to freshen up the wardrobe with a few new pieces from the latest fashion trends. Yes, she often rolls her eyes at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the very best of her sharing list these days.
Yes, my little princess has her challenges, her snarky attitudes, her experiences of self-doubt. Yes, this lady can sometimes be mean to the woman’s siblings, sassy to the girl’s parents, generally ornery. Even though, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true compassion for others that will serve not only her, but the world most importantly, quite well.
We do not need to go someplace special or do something intriguing to live our own truth. Basically, freedom to be comfortable in your own skin should not be saved for places that we take a look at three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all solutions, always.
Even though we encouraged all of our infants to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her of the fact that decision to return is now totally up to her. As any discussion ensued, I became almost mesmerized by the girl’s capacity to articulate her vantage point on the subject.
Possibly not what I experienced several years back (alright twenty-six many back to be exact) with the tender age of 18. Recently my daughter and I were discussing irrespective of whether she would attend, once again, some three week all girls’ camp for the 5th summer in a row.
With a palpable gratitude for all with the opportunities and lessons learned from her previous camp experiences, she began to discuss her deeper thoughts on this subject and beyond. This lady shared that while camp is touted as a place to be fully and legitimately yourself, create a sisterhood, extend a connection to nature, and explore your core because of contemplation and solitude, the time of it all is to come to understand that inner bond is available anywhere, anytime, and the most importantly in the NOW.
Your lady went on to give the case of seeing quite plainly that she doesn’t will need to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything different (a camper) to look authentic, open, connected and free. While she definitely views camp as a benefit, she knows that the lady with enough just as she is by means of or without camp to make sure you remind her of that inner knowing.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, many with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit random to her now, articulating that while appreciative in the sentiment, she hoped which usually her fellow campers experienced free to be themselves beyond the activities in nature, communal cabins, and family eating dinner. In short, everywhere.
I was truly amazed by her expression in deep wisdom that has used many of us divorces, health illnesses, and endless searches throughout different veins of the outer world to figure out. What my dear girl was saying through the example of summer season camp–one of any conceivable outer examples–probably resonates by means of most of us when looked at meticulously.
Indeed, a typical adolescent in so many ways, Except underneath the North Face cover and the Ugg boots, at the rear of the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent computer screen, and even beyond our passionate family discussions and shared dinners, there lies a good self-awareness and interior blossom set stage that seems unfathomable for a child her age.
While some parents desire status, monetary reward and upward societal movement with regard to children–none of which are poor per say–beyond those outdoor pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own home be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
She assured me that she was not “knocking” camp in any way and will choose to return, but in the event that she does go back for another year or some, it would not be for the reason that camp experience allows the woman’s to feel more authentic in any way. Her return may be based on the conscious, bottom (soul) choice to attend for the reason that she enJOYs the experience certainly not because it is a “safe” destination to be herself fully on the earth.