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Ways of Making Long Distance Relationships Work

Long distance relationships are not easy. I don’t think too many people get into a relationship with the intention of being apart more often than they are together, but sometimes that is exactly what happens. Although being apart makes things more difficult, it is possible to have a successful long-distance relationship. On this page we are going to go over some tips and strategies to give you some ways of making long distance relationships work.

Define Your Relationship

Before you and your significant other end up living in separate towns, it’s very important that both of you are on the same page regarding your relationship. You need to have a serious discussion about the way you feel about each other and how you would like to continue the relationship. Obviously, it can be very bad if one person wants to remain in a committed, monogamous relationship, while the other person feels like they are on a break and therefore free to do whatever they want and see other people.

It may seem obvious to some of the people reading this, but it’s important to sit down and have a serious discussion. Put all of your cards on the table and discuss your expectations about the relationship before it becomes a “long-distance relationship”.

Use Technology to Your Advantage

Modern technology makes it a lot easier to stay close, even when you’re far apart. You should try to stay in contact with your partner as often as possible. Daily phone calls are a must, but these days we also have options like e-mail, text messaging, and even online video chat.

One way to use technology to your advantage is to send photos or videos as a way to stay in touch. If you see something that you know your partner would like, or that reminds you of them, take a photo and send it to them. If you are out doing something fun, shoot a short video message and send it to them, telling them that you wish they could be with you.

You can also use services like Skype or other online video conferencing services to go on virtual dates. The two of you could rent the same movie and watch it together via video chat. You could sit down to a meal together and pretend like you’re sitting across the table from each other. Of course video chat is not as good as being there in person, but it is a way to see each other and spend some time together even when you are many miles apart.

Send Gifts

Sending a gift every once in a while is a great way to keep the romance alive even when you can’t be together. You could send something like flowers, candy, or just a nice card, but you could send something more fun, special, or creative as well. A woman might want to mail her man tickets to his favorite sporting event. A man might want to mail his woman gift certificates for a spot treatment. Get creative and think of a gift that your partner would appreciate. It’s always fun to open a package and when you get a thoughtful gift from a person you care about, it really means a lot.

Discuss Your Future Together

If the two of you are making an effort to make a long distance relationship work, it’s probably because the two of you really care about each other and see a future together. You should talk about your future together. Discuss your plans for the future whether that includes moving in together, getting married etc. Discussing your future together and knowing that you will not be in a long-distance relationship forever, makes it easier to get through the difficult times when you can’t be together.

Visit Each Other As Often As Possible

It’s important to make an effort to see each other in person as often as possible. Of course that is easier said than done and the further apart you are, the more expensive it is to travel to see each other, but it is important to see each other in person. One thing you can do is take the money you might normally spend going out on dates and set it aside to pay for travel expenses. The two of you can take turns visiting your respective cities, or you can even plan a trip where you meet somewhere in the middle.

Hopefully the tips on this page have given you some ideas about ways to make long distance relationships work. It’s not always easy but it can be done. It’s important to remember that you will not be separated for ever and at some point you will be together again. In the meantime, I hope that the tips above give you some ideas that will help you keep the spark alive.

How to Make Somebody Fall in Love with You

If you have been in a series of relationships that have ended, but you truly desire a loving and long-lasting relationship, you may be searching for information on how to make somebody fall in love with you. Unfortunately, you cannot “make” someone fall in love with you. There is some good news however. There are some things you can do to get you noticed, make you more attractive, and keep people interested in you. These types of things can “help” someone fall in love with you.

Be Yourself

The first tip I would give anyone looking for love is to be yourself. If you pretend to be someone you’re not in order to get someone else to fall in love with you, it will never work out in the end. You cannot pretend to be someone else forever. Some women will downplay their intelligence because they are afraid that an intelligent woman might be intimidating to a man. Some men will pretend that they are more successful than they really are because they think women will be impressed by their wealth or success. The truth will come out eventually so it’s never a good idea to pretend to be someone or something you’re not to try to make somebody fall in love with you.

Give Compliments

Everyone likes to hear a compliment from time to time, it makes people feel good about themselves. It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman, a compliment is nice to hear. Of course you don’t want to be handing out compliments just for the sake of giving a compliment. You don’t want it to sound fake or insincere. If you do have something nice to say though, go ahead and say it. If the person you are with makes you laugh, tell them how funny they are. If you are impressed by the way they solve a problem, tell them how smart they are. Give a compliment whenever it is appropriate, the person you are with will love to hear it.

Be Pleasant to Be Around

Most people don’t need any extra drama in their lives. If you like to argue about things, you are creating a stressful environment that will turn off a lot of people. If you can be pleasant, people will enjoy being around you more and it will be easier for someone to fall in love with you.

Connect on an Intellectual and Emotional Level

When you are on a first date with someone there is a lot of small talk. You are just getting to know each other and you will talk about things like what you do for a living, how many brothers and sisters you have, what kind of movies you like etc. If you have been dating someone for a while and you want them to fall in love with you, you are going to have to really learn a lot more about each other. You have to know what kinds of goals and aspirations the two of you share. If you have similar goals then the two of you will be more compatible and it will be easier for the two of you to fall in love. To really learn about each other is going to require some deep conversations, so after you get past the first couple of dates, tried to get past the small talk and really start learning about each other.

Be Available… But Not Too Available

This tip is mostly for women. A man will like it if you are there for him when he needs you, but if you are always there, he may start to take you for granted. If your man is going through a difficult time and he really needs someone to talk to, you should be there for him. However, it’s also a good idea to spend a little time apart once in a while, and not be together every second of every day.

If you are together all the time, a man might start to take you for granted. It’s good to spend some time apart and let him know what it feels like when you are not around. If a man is developing strong feelings for you, he won’t like it when you are not around, and that may help him realize that he is indeed developing strong feelings for you. There is a saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder, so keep that in mind and don’t let him take you for granted.

Like I mentioned earlier, it’s not possible to make someone fall in love with you, but if you put some of the ideas on this page in to practice, it is possible to help someone fall in love with you.

Some of the More Common Reasons Why Men Pull Away in Relationships

It’s a very common occurrence; a man and a woman are dating for a while and things seem to be going great, then he suddenly seems distant. He doesn’t call or text as often as he used to and it almost seems like he is avoiding her. It is frustrating and confusing for women when this happens so to shed some light on the subject, we are going to cover some of the more common reasons why men pull away in relationships.

Have I Changed?

Sometimes men will pull away from a relationship because the woman they are with has changed. It’s almost as if she isn’t the same person she was when they first met. Some women will actually pretend to be someone they are not in order to impress a man. Some women will put on an act, trying to be the woman they think men will be attracted to. The problem is that no one can pretend to be someone else forever, eventually the truth will come out. If a man falls for a persona, he will definitely pull away from the relationship if the woman’s true identity is nothing like the persona she was portraying in the beginning.

Am I Too Needy?

A lot of men are attracted to a strong, independent woman. If a woman is too needy, it can be a big turnoff. Sometimes a needy woman is also a jealous woman which can also be a major turnoff for a lot of men. A jealous woman never wants to let her man out of her sight and doesn’t trust him. A lack of trust is a great way to kill a relationship.

He Has Personal Issues

When a man pulls away from a relationship, it’s not always the woman’s fault. Sometimes a man has issues that he is dealing with in his life and he needs to handle those issues without the added stress of being in a serious relationship. If a man is having problems with his family, trouble at work, or some other serious issue, he may pull away from a relationship until he can take care of whatever issues he is currently dealing with.

Things Are Moving a Little Too Fast

Sometimes things are going great, and a man and woman who are dating like each other very much and have a wonderful time together. For some men however, a fear of commitment makes them want to slow things down, so things don’t get too serious, too quickly.

This can be very confusing for a lot of women. If things are going so great, why would he not want to continue in the relationship? If a man has commitment issues, he is going to have to figure out how to deal with those issues before he can commit to a serious relationship.

What Can You Do When Your Man Pulls Away from a Relationship?

If your man pulls away from your relationship, the way you deal with it really depends on what his reason is for pulling away. If he is pulling away because you are too needy, too jealous, you don’t trust him etc., then you need to change what you are doing that might be pushing him away.

If he is pulling away from the relationship because he is dealing with personal issues in his life, let him know that you will be there for him if he needs you, but don’t be too pushy or aggressive. Give him the time and space he needs to take care of his issues, but let him know that you are there if he needs someone to talk to.

The same advice can be applied if a man pulls away from a relationship because of a fear of commitment. If a man has a fear of commitment and pulls away, rather than coming on stronger and trying harder to make things work, give him the space he needs. Sometimes men just need a little bit of time to get used to the idea of being involved in a serious, committed relationship.