Archive | July 2012

What Are The Best Ways Of Getting A Man To Propose?

Finding A Man That Is Ready For Marriage

Nowadays, it is very hard to find a man that you like, but keeping him next to you for the whole of your life is even harder. While compatibility is ultra-important when it comes to finding a man that is prepared to marry you, you also need for him to be in a “Marriage mind-set”.

Timing can be very important when it comes to marriage. If you end up with a guy who is looking for a fun, flirty relationship for the next five years, with no intention of marrying, then you’ll have to live with that. No amount of hinting and talk of marriage is going to change his mind.

You almost have to be on the lookout from the get-go of a relationship for somebody that seems like they’ve reached that stage in their lives where they are looking to settle down and have a family. For that reason, take care to avoid men who are on the rebound, looking for casual fun or seem totally career oriented if you are looking for him to propose to you.

What If He Doesn’t Seem Ready To Commit?

 

That said, there are things that can get him more in the mood to propose if you feel you’re in the right relationship but he just doesn’t seem ready to commit just yet. What can you do to nudge him in the direction of giving you the ring that you have been waiting for such a long time for? Read the following tips to find out.

  • Learn to love and respect yourself. Analyze your character and change the things you do not like. Many people believe that self-respect is the key. And believe it, men prefer women who take care of themselves.
  • Men love realistic women. Crying and pleading will not only scare your partner, but it might also make him leave you. Control your emotions and moods.
  • Do not rush things. Give him time to get to know you better and give him the space that he needs to trust you completely. This way, you will both see if you are compatible or not.
  • We know that women tend to be a little too gadfly and impatient sometimes. If you badger him all the time, your partner will start doubting the bond between you and your relationship in general.
  • Make sure to inject some humor into the relationship. Although you are in this relationship for the haul, try not to show him your dissatisfaction that he has not proposed yet. All your interactions together should be fun and exciting. This way, he’ll be more likely to want to stay with you for the rest of his life.
  • Be confident and sexy. This does not mean that you have to be vulgar. Kiss him sensually and make him want you. Also make him work to get you in the sheets. If there’s no challenge left for him in wooing you he’s more likely to move on. This will appeal to his masculine, alpha male side.
  • Tell your partner that you like him because he is both strong and tender. Men like to be admired and loved for what they are and not for their potential financial possibilities.
  • Being funny and amusing can also help you win his heart for the long term. Who needs sad and grouchy women?
  • Try to understand him and let him discover you piece by piece. Take long walks, talk about things you both like and tell him what he wants to know about you. This way, you will get to know each other better.
  • Talk about marriage in general and see what he thinks about that. Do not let him believe that you want to get married no matter what and right now. Just make a few subtle suggestions and let him understand that making your relationship official would make you very happy one day.
  • Let him understand that you will always love him, no matter what difficulties you have to face. Every couple has misunderstandings and fights at a given moment. What matters is how you get over the problems. If your relationship is based on respect and if you are both mature enough, anything can usually be solved.
  • Make him understand that you will say “yes” if he pops the question. Many times, men fear they will be rejected and they’ll quite often avoid proposing for that very reason.

Getting To The Point Of Proposal

Marriage is one of the most important events in anyone’s life, implying sincerity and commitment. A relationship based on love, respect, understanding and proper communication will rarely fail.

If you feel that you want to spend your whole life with this guy, give him time and help him to feel the same way about you. When the time comes, the ring will be sparkling on your finger!

 

What Makes A Man Want To Marry A Woman – The Truth

There are many different reasons why men fall in love with women, but only a few of those reasons will go on to prompt them into that territory where they’ll want to go as far as popping the big question! So what do men want in a woman?

What does a woman need to do to get a man to propose

What does he want from you to get to this?

Marriage nowadays tends to have become somehow overrated, mostly for men, who are more and more independent and reluctant of the idea of companionship with one woman for the rest of their lives – at least, until later on into their later years. Nevertheless, as we have mentioned before, there is a threefold way to gently push (or cajole) a man into marrying you, but it is not an easy one.

Give Him the Space He Needs!

Men are not massively complicated beings. In fact, they are quite simple when it comes to their needs, and one of their strongest needs is that for freedom. As long as you understand that your man needs space to do the things he loves doing, the things he got used to doing before he met you and the things that make him happy (aside from being with you!), then you’ll have a real chance to persuade him to want to spend the rest of his life by your side.

I know it’s not going to be easy to go along with this, as most of the time, your fella’s wants and needs may appear stupid or meaningless, but you have to accept the fact that having fun for him is different than having fun for you. He’ll want to have his cake – and eat it, in other words he’ll want to share his life with you with the life that he has learnt to love before you were even on the scene. And, in a way, you’ll need to let him do that – to a degree. If he feels that he’s being cut off from the perceived happy, boisterous times-of-old and doing the fun old stuff he used to enjoy with the boys – you can pretty much forget that wedding ring or any kind of commitment!

Make Him Feel Strong and in Control

Men also need to feel like men most of the time. They need to feel that they excel at everything and it is important for them to feel appreciated and admired. Out of this need, men become competitive in sports or other hobbies they are attracted to, at their jobs and even in their relationships – it’s all part of the testosterone drive.

If you see him focused on achieving something, support him. Make him feel that he has what it takes to get there and help him get there if you can, instead of nagging him that he is neglecting you and that he doesn’t give you enough time. All this is within reason, of course, you’ll soon end up disowning him if he’s not prepared to give plenty back your way. Just don’t let your love for him hold him back from his ambitions.

You have to understand that winning, achieving goals and ambition are instinctively driven and bestow on him the alpha male factor – and that’s probably subconsciously aimed towards attracting you even further (even if it doesn’t always seem like it at the time.) The better he feels about himself, the better he will communicate with you and the stronger he will get involved in your relationship.

Making him feel understood, making him feel he can do everything he puts his mind to, showing him that you have confidence in him are things that will make him want to have you around for as long as possible.

Don’t Make Him Emotionally Uncomfortable

Then, you have to be extra careful with his emotions. Engaging in emotional workouts too often will make your man feel uncomfortable. They are not used to opening up and speaking their minds and that is maybe one of the hardest things to accept for a woman, because we all want proof of affection and to be showered with words of love. Some of us are not as gushy about it as others, but you know what I mean.

What you must realize is that they feel emasculated if they show their deep and true emotions. They were educated this way, but that doesn’t mean that they are some cold-hearted being. The less emotional you are around them, the more relaxed they are and this is one more crucial step forward in making him get down on the proverbial knee. He probably already has a mother for whom he has to show an embarrassing amount of public affection. He doesn’t need another one. From time to time, of course, you’d expect as much, but the real intimacy and emotional side of him will come out in privacy, given time.

Three Simple Things That Men Want In A Woman

Summarizing, some of the crucial things that make a man want to marry a woman, and that many women don’t quite get because they are too busy trying to keep as tight a squeeze on their boyfriend as possible, are a woman that understands his needs, respects his space and cherishes his male pride. You have to give him the chance to retain some of what made him HIM when you first met. After all, that’s what attracted you to him in the first place, right? Why throw all that away now?